Caring for Yourself

If you are living in a violent situation, planning an escape, or recovering from a past violent relationship, you are living through a stressful and traumatic event in your life. You're on a journey and your commitment to yourself and your own self care will be crucial as you face the challenges that come with building safety and healing. Many survivors describe feelings of low self esteem, lack of trust, and isolation as a result of the abuse. These feelings can get in the way of taking care of yourself and building a support network. This section provides some insight into the recovery process and some ideas for building a support system. You'll find help as you choose a counselor and learn some things to avoid that are not helpful and could be dangerous in your recovery.

Some Suggestions

• Talk to someone that you trust

• Read about domestic violence and understand the dynamics and patterns of an abusive relationship

• Develop a safety plan and use it to keep yourself as safe as possible

• Call a domestic violence hotline

• Believe in yourself

• Recognize your strengths and believe in your ability to survive and heal

• Refrain from blaming yourself when it is not your fault

• Rebuild a support system and surround yourself with positive and supportive people